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Commenting on the price of an item/outfit: Is this considered rude?

Is it okay to comment on the price of others items/outfits/wardrobes in lolita? I feel this line is a little blurred in the lolita community for three reasons...


One, everybody already knows how much you paid for the most part, because we keep up with the current sales and have resources like hello lace and lolibrary. Unless it is some extremely niche brand no one has heard or handmade, we can wager a guess on how much you spent, even secondhand, or at least do a little digging to find out.  So stating it will not be revealing any grand secrets.
Two, I feel that some consider it fair game to comment on price once you announce the item/brand, and may even perceive it as bragging.
Three, It also seems to be fairly acceptable to comment on, and praise those who are able to look great while spending far less than average for this fashion.


So how do you feel about it, rude or not?  Are there exceptions? Here are some scenarios I have seen happen to other lolitas recently (paraphrased!), you be the judge!

A - (Person says they purchased an item they have been wanting, they state the name/brand of said item) "Whoa, that's like $500, at least!"
B - (Person wears an outfit, but does not mention the name/brand of their items - others recognize them.) "Pretty! Is that JetJ head to toe? That must have been super expensive!"

C - (Person says they purchased an item they have been wanting, they state the name/brand of said item) "What a bargain! That goes for less than $80 secondhand!"
D - (Person wears an outfit, but does not mention the name/brand of their items - others recognize the items) "Oooh, cute, and with Bodyline and indie, you probably spent under $120 for the whole outfit, too!"

C and D honestly don't bother me too much, though I would probably refrain from mentioning a specific dollar amount.  I would be honored if someone recognized that I frugally put an outfit together and praised me for it, but I would probably still not want an exact number thrown around, and others may not want me to comment on it at all, and might feel embarrassed for not spending as much as others (though they shouldn't).
But the first two drive me up a wall, especially B. A, I can understand how others might consider it fair game once you announce what your item is, or even see it as bragging, but it still makes me uncomfortable. I also think others might feel threatened if you announce how much they spend, and may feel they need to defend their income by saying "I work really hard and save up" or something. I personally don't think anyone should have to feel ashamed for getting a dress as a gift from a wealthy relative or having a high paying job, anymore than they should feel ashamed for being thrify and buying secondhand.

What about you?



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